So yes that day of the year is on its way, it’s yet another date in the calendar that makes all single people feel more alone than ever, but why? I’m curious to know why people have allowed themselves to feel that one particular day is the only day you have to prove you are in love. Where did it come from and is it really something single people need to feel bad about?
I wanted to get to the bottom of it so I had a look round for a non commercialised description of St. Valentine and I found this on http://www.catholiconline.com – Other depictions of St. Valentine’s arrests tell that he secretly married couples so husbands wouldn’t have to go to war. Another variation of the legend of St. Valentine says he refused to sacrifice to pagan gods, was imprisoned and while imprisoned he healed the jailer’s blind daughter. On the day of his execution, he left the girl a note signed, “Your Valentine.” So does this figure really have the credentials to cause so much heartache?
It seems to me that this saint would have quite frankly been appalled at the commercialism surrounding him, because let’s face it the shops are the only ones who benefit. I believe the only people who feel they are missing out are actually only missing out on the nightmare that is Valentine’s Day and here’s why. If you are in a couple on Valentine’s Day it is a nightmare, guy’s (as always) have it easy, flowers, chocolates and a nice meal, that’s your remit no matter what diamonds the advertisers tell you you must buy, really you don’t have to all you have to do is remember! For girls it’s more difficult, what do you buy for a guy? Maybe you could cook a nice meal for him and probably something to do with sex? I’ve never been very good with presents for boys.
The stress one day can cause is ridiculous, I remember one of my ex’s was rubbish and after a few years I pretty much demanded that he took me out to dinner, the fact that I had to do that tainted it in the first place then he bargained with me (yes you heard right people, Valentine’s day came with a condition!). As his birthday was the week before he said if I took him out for dinner on his birthday he would take me out to dinner for Valentine’s Day, something else that took the fun out of it. When we arrived at the restaurant the tables were pushed so close together I was sitting closer to the stranger sat next to me than my boyfriend, it actually felt like I was speed dating! Needless to say this wasn’t the romantic evening I was expecting and I’m pretty sure I haven’t been alone in my Valentines disappointment. So why do we bother?
In my opinion it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship or single, Valentine’s day is just designed to make you feel bad because it doesn’t really matter if you do something or not you either end up feeling lonely, unloved or guilty and the only people who actually benefit from it is all the retailers who cash in on it. I might sound bitter but honestly not all my Valentine’s have been bad, when I was at high school every year for three years I received a rose from the same boy, it was really embarrassing at the time and just another reason for people to tease me but deep down I found it quiet sweet.
So whatever happens to you on V day don’t feel bad, it’s all hyped up rubbish designed for retailers to flog tacky rubbish at twice the price and restaurants to bump up the price of food and squeeze as many people as possible into the space they have. If you’re single just thank God you don’t have to worry about ending up in a blazing row!